I've always been sceptical of energy healing, it sounds hocus pocus and mystical to me, but from the moment I decided to heal Social Anxiety I also decided to keep and open mind and be willing to try anything.
This is a principle that has served me well, so when my partner said she wanted me to try Reiki and that should could tune me, which means show me how to do it, I agreed to it without pre-judging.
I left all of my judgements to one side, any thoughts I had about it I left alone while I opened myself up to it.
I was actually astonished to find that after just two weeks I was already feeling different. I felt far more confident than I had been before and I saw things from a new perspective.
What I realised is that my understanding of energy healing was lacking. But by doing it and with my understanding of how life coaching helps us, changed my perspective on this.
My understanding is now a little different, it's not mystical at all, it makes perfect sense.
You see, when you feel anger, that is energy, when you feel calm, that is also energy: when you feel, it is energy.
Whether you want to call it something else doesn't matter, emotional healing perhaps.
The way it works from my understanding, is that you find in your body where you feel peace for example, and you sit with that feeling, you connect with it, you meditate on that feeling.
This aligns you to feeling peace, it makes it easier to connect to it in moments where you would usually lose your cool.
Now there are other parts of this, for example there are symbols you draw on your hands and a light that flashes through your body.
For me the symbols are like an anchor used in hypnosis, they help you connect to the feeling, much like when you hear a song that triggers a certain memory and sensation.
The flash of light, from what I have experienced so far is simply visualisation, which has the power to create feeling. We can do this with memories, or visualising something happy can make us feel that sensation.
Visualising light that you have given the intention of healing and love and then seeing it fill your body feels good. And anything that feels good in this way is generally good for us.
Stress can cause disease in the body, the chemicals that the body releases when stressed are damaging in large quantities.
In the same vain, when you visualise this loving, healing light, your body seems to flood the cells with chemicals that allow them to thrive (this is just conjecture at this point) and it makes sense and certainly can only do good.
I haven't been shown how to do distance healing yet and as you can imagine I am sceptical, but I'm also aware that my understanding may not be complete and so I am open to doing it to see if I can fill in the gaps of my understanding.
I will finish this article by saying that I'm really enjoying using Reiki on myself. It's a great meditation to sit with and feel peace, strength and connection to my best-self, that's how I see it.
I think it adds so much value that I'm including meditation based on this in my course, 'Social Anxiety: Gone! - The complete system for reprogramming an anxious mind.'
Coming around February 2018
What's the most important, vital component or element in overcoming Social Anxiety?
That's a question I wish I'd known the answer to when I first began this journey all those years ago.
And it's one that If I'd have known, or just realised, I could have saved my self thousands of pounds and years of frustration, loneliness and boredom...
The first thing we have to talk about is the open mind. What is it, what does it do, do you have one and why would you want one. These are all good questions, so let's get into it.
An open mind is being open to not knowing. It's being open to being wrong, it's being open to the possibility that what you currently believe to be true could be wrong.
Is it a good thing to have an open mind, is this a healthy approach?
Here's the situation.
Ashley was about to practice giving a speech when suddenly he froze. He had fear and doubt, he was uncomfortable and nervous, he felt like he was being judged and couldn't speak.
But then he used this one technique that changed everything...
Appologies for the clickbait sounding title. I didn't really know what else to go with because this was a heck of a month with a lot of interesting things happening. So let's dive straight in.
I attended Colourfest in the UK at the start of June. I didn't know what to expect but I wanted to attend a festival that was not mainstream. I wanted something that had more of a focus on connecting people.
And that's exactly what I found. It's an alcohol and drug free festival about bringing people together, letting go and connecting.
To give you an idea, here'a few of the highlights:
You know what it's like, there's that thing you want to do. Maybe you want to talk to someone you're attracted to. You have a job interview. Or maybe you're just meeting new people you really like and want them to like you.
You feel anxious and depending on how server you'll get some kind of symptoms, like your heart thumping against your chest so loud you're sure everyone can hear it. Or maybe just a feeling in your gut accompanied by anxious thoughts of how you'll screw up.
What ever it is, if you are afraid of that feeling, you'll avoid situations that could serve you in your life. Even if the anxiety is just a small amount, you'll avoid it because it's uncomfortable. You'll have a fear of feeling anxious, or a fear of fear.
You avoid it because it feels bad. Or that's what you think anyway. It's a horrible feeling, right?
Well here's the thing. What's the difference between anxiety and excitement in terms of the sensations you feel?
Your hands may still become sweaty, you heart will pound against your rib cage, all of the symptoms are the same. There's only one subtle difference. What ever it is you're about to do, while being on the edge of your comfort zone, you believe you have the capability to handle.
You're not afraid of it.
So next time you're feeling anxious, don't label it as good or bad, just feel the sensations. Feel them, feel them fully. Realise that it's just a sensation and that you're not in any real danger.
Learn to sit with the sensations and not judge them. Then you can stop fearing them. You can stop fearing the fear and instead believe you can handle the sensations of anxiety. You start to find situations you found scary become less scary and as you get better at this and change your focus from trying to not feel the sensations, you may even come to enjoy them.
This is just one technique I found that helped me. Use it and let me know how it helps you.
I've written a reply to a question on Quora to read it by clicking here, "Overthinking is ruining my life - to the point where I think myself out of living. Why do I do this and what should I do?"
Here's a climpse of the article...
The reason you over think is simple. There’s an experience you’re looking for, a feeling you want. You think you know how to get it, but you don’t believe you have the skill to acquire it. So you’re thinking, searching for the best way to achieve your goal and create your desired experience. You think and think searching for the ‘right answer’ because you want to feel certain you can create this experience.
For example, if you...
I could be like everyone else and show you only the cool stuff. Only the times when I beat anxiety. Only the cool things I'm doing, to try to inspire you. But that wouldn't be real. I don't want to trick you into thinking that life is perfect.
It's all around us. Facebook is full of all the awesome things we do in our lives, and we avoid sharing the hardships, the embarrassment, the failure. So people see our perfect lives. The same I feel is true for people sharing any kind of potentially life changing information. They want to share the best stuff to make you think that's how your life will look and you buy their stuff.
But it's not real. And I want to be real and authentic, I want to be vulnerable, I want to share my failures and my successes. Because this is what's real. This is what's necessary to make change in your life if you want something different to what you have now.
I just received an email from popular blog, feedspot highlighting my Youtube blog as one of the top 30 blogs for Social Anxiety on the internet and it got me thinking.
I've been hesitating to post articles here and videos to my youtube channel regularly, not for lack of ideas or topics, but because I wasn't sure about the value I'm offering. I've thought for a while that what I talk about in my videos is obvious or of little value and it left me feeling unmotivated and anxious to upload new content.
It's been a constant theme since I started the channel. So I wanted to look more in to why this is and what I can do about it.
Ashley suffered with Social Anxiety for 15 years, he learned tools and techniques to help him quickly and while having fun overcome and heal his Social Anxiety. Now he is showing you how you can live free of anxiety and enjoy your life the way you want to.