I could be like everyone else and show you only the cool stuff. Only the times when I beat anxiety. Only the cool things I'm doing, to try to inspire you. But that wouldn't be real. I don't want to trick you into thinking that life is perfect.
It's all around us. Facebook is full of all the awesome things we do in our lives, and we avoid sharing the hardships, the embarrassment, the failure. So people see our perfect lives. The same I feel is true for people sharing any kind of potentially life changing information. They want to share the best stuff to make you think that's how your life will look and you buy their stuff.
But it's not real. And I want to be real and authentic, I want to be vulnerable, I want to share my failures and my successes. Because this is what's real. This is what's necessary to make change in your life if you want something different to what you have now.
If you're only interested in learning from someone who doesn't show their failures, how likely are you to accept that failure is a neccessary part of success.
It's a challenge to share my failures because I'm afraid it will put people off wanting to be coached by me. Should I wait until I'm 100% anxiety free to share what I've already learned? I don't think so. For four reasons.
1) What I've already learnt can help people who are going through what I went through.
2) The failures are part of the recovery. You will fail, you will make mistakes so accept it's part of the story, it's part of the journey.
3) If you can't accept that failure is part of recovery, then you won't apply what you learn anyway, through fear of failure. Far better to share my failures, mistakes and challenges than to pretend they don't exist to boost sales.
4) There's a lot to be learnt from mistakes and failures. Why hide these valuable lessons. I want you to know what I didn't. That failure is part of success.
I'm sure as I move through life I will always fail, it's just the size of my failures that will change (hopefully bigger failures), along with the size of my successes of course.
It's for this reason I share my failures and my successes.
NOTE: When I post right now I have concern that what I write or post is harmful to my objective, or ins't useful. I can choose to not post. I can wait until I know (which won't happen unless I get experience), or I can only post when someone tells me it's valuable or makes sense or what ever my fear is.
Either way, everything I want is on the other side of fear. So my option is to post and see what happens, see what I learn.
Do you have thoughts, comments or experiences to share? Express them in the comments :)
Ashley suffered with Social Anxiety for 15 years, he learned tools and techniques to help him quickly and while having fun overcome and heal his Social Anxiety. Now he is showing you how you can live free of anxiety and enjoy your life the way you want to.